I was planning to cut my hair for a really really long time. So when I finally did, I didn’t have any other responds to the shocked friends, other than... ‘because I wanted to.’
I also wanted to challenge my inner self; The desi long hair girl was a disguise, she was missing the pixie and the punk inside her. So I thought it’s high time I brought out my inner real self. Not only my new friends but also my sister’s-in-law were shocked to see me in the new avatar. Some of them asked me whether I cut my hair again or is it an old pic I've uploaded in the FB ? Husband didn’t like it either. Every time we got ready to go out he commented without fail, ‘you look like the aunties from’80’s.’ Which of course I took as a compliment. When his words were not getting the desired effect, he stopped commenting on my hair cut. For me, I am at that point in my life even if I shave off my hair like Tilda Swinton (from Doctor Strange movie) I will still walk on this planet confidently. For me the hair on my head didn’t define my beauty. Every time I looked in the mirror I only saw a strong woman staring back at me. I saw a woman with the ability to smile even at the most difficult times in her life. I felt her kind heart inside me. A heart capable of forgiving even her worst enemies; In her eyes I saw her quest for knowledge and making new friends. These were the things which made her beautiful not her long or short hair.
My hairstylist too refused to cut my hair that short. According to him, a short haircut won't suit me. But then I told him, there is only one life and too many hairstyles to try and that philosophy got him and he agreed to cut my hair. After cutting my hair he tried to convince me to straighten it. But I refused to do so because I liked my wavy black hair.
Few years back I took a decision not to straighten my hair anymore. When I looked around, girls with curly hair wished for straight hair and girls with straight silky hair wished for curly /wavy hair. Now that I’m a Mother, I wondered what will I teach my son when he grows up. If I’m not accepting my own body and its features, then one day when he grows up and goes through his teens what will I teach him !
I have nothing against styling my hair. For weddings and other events I've smoothed my hair and styled it. But never ever I have gone for a permanent hair straightening in a long time. Because I believe the only trick needed to make a really short hair cut work is confidence and only confidence.